Comments on: Where the edges became frayed http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/ The shape of daily life. Tue, 07 Oct 2008 17:58:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Sam http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133620 Sam Fri, 18 Apr 2008 03:53:40 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133620 I just love you, love your mind and your heart and your utter honesty. The honesty that keeps us writing - whether online or off - is always what scares me. We are forced to get down to the nitty-gritty, like it or not. But we are so lucky and blessed, because we get to resolve or mull over our whatevers and grow and heal. Winter really is a rough time, and while these past two winters have been better for me (all the hormones?) I have not forgotten the bleak ones. And you know we barely even HAVE a winter down here. But I'm happy to hear you are feeling better, that things are resolved. I just love you, love your mind and your heart and your utter honesty. The honesty that keeps us writing - whether online or off - is always what scares me. We are forced to get down to the nitty-gritty, like it or not. But we are so lucky and blessed, because we get to resolve or mull over our whatevers and grow and heal.

Winter really is a rough time, and while these past two winters have been better for me (all the hormones?) I have not forgotten the bleak ones. And you know we barely even HAVE a winter down here. But I’m happy to hear you are feeling better, that things are resolved.

]]> By: krista http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133392 krista Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:44:56 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133392 i suck at commenting, but know i love you, and hear you- totally. i suck at commenting, but know i love you, and hear you- totally.

]]> By: Molly http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133235 Molly Tue, 15 Apr 2008 16:55:02 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133235 I am beginning to see my own life with that pattern of sorrow in winter, the hibernation and quiet, and with the wet, with the springing forth, with the green and the meals outdoors, things begin to feel better. I've been blaming it on teaching too, so I'll let you know how that changes when I change--the MFA starts next autumn, and though I'll be teaching half time, it will be teaching college kids, and I'll be a full fledged student. Putting off babies for a few years, which makes me grateful and sad all at once. The push-pull of what our bodies want at this precarious age. I am beginning to see my own life with that pattern of sorrow in winter, the hibernation and quiet, and with the wet, with the springing forth, with the green and the meals outdoors, things begin to feel better. I’ve been blaming it on teaching too, so I’ll let you know how that changes when I change–the MFA starts next autumn, and though I’ll be teaching half time, it will be teaching college kids, and I’ll be a full fledged student. Putting off babies for a few years, which makes me grateful and sad all at once. The push-pull of what our bodies want at this precarious age.

]]> By: Kristina http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133234 Kristina Tue, 15 Apr 2008 16:34:30 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133234 I, too, think the seasons affect us. And I was amazed when my husband suggested that my bad allergies this spring might be making me depressed; a little research confirmed that this was truly a possibility. Also, I think as INFJs we do struggle with our very strong idealism and high expectations for life (NOT a bad thing!) and finding a way to balance that with the more mundane parts of existence. I'm still trying to find that balance... Thanks for your honesty! I, too, think the seasons affect us. And I was amazed when my husband suggested that my bad allergies this spring might be making me depressed; a little research confirmed that this was truly a possibility.

Also, I think as INFJs we do struggle with our very strong idealism and high expectations for life (NOT a bad thing!) and finding a way to balance that with the more mundane parts of existence. I’m still trying to find that balance…

Thanks for your honesty!

]]> By: tanya http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133217 tanya Tue, 15 Apr 2008 12:56:38 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133217 Sometimes it is easier for the stuff that bothers us to come up when the sun isn't shining. Sometimes it is easier for the stuff that bothers us to come up when the sun isn’t shining.

]]> By: Julia http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133162 Julia Tue, 15 Apr 2008 07:20:30 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133162 When I watch a city of dour people become friendly and fanciful just because of the sun, and I read in friends' emails and posts the time table of spring sweeping northward just through the lightening of their thoughts, I believe with Liz that we are strung to the weather tighter than we think. That is to say, next year I'm definitely heading south in February ;-). When I watch a city of dour people become friendly and fanciful just because of the sun, and I read in friends’ emails and posts the time table of spring sweeping northward just through the lightening of their thoughts, I believe with Liz that we are strung to the weather tighter than we think.

That is to say, next year I’m definitely heading south in February ;-).

]]> By: lizardek http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133160 lizardek Tue, 15 Apr 2008 06:38:14 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133160 It's not the job stopping you, you know (and I know you do know)...I'm also glad to hear the sadness is easing, and I think that the seasons and the weather and the light affect us MUCH more than we'd like to think. No way you can come down to BP's and see us when we're there?? That ought to cheer you up! :D It’s not the job stopping you, you know (and I know you do know)…I’m also glad to hear the sadness is easing, and I think that the seasons and the weather and the light affect us MUCH more than we’d like to think. No way you can come down to BP’s and see us when we’re there?? That ought to cheer you up! :D

]]> By: Jennie http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133147 Jennie Tue, 15 Apr 2008 02:48:03 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133147 You are not alone - I have been in a similar situation this winter myself, complete with the whole what I love vs. what I do career situation. Thank you for putting everything I have been feeling lately so eloquently into words. You are not alone - I have been in a similar situation this winter myself, complete with the whole what I love vs. what I do career situation. Thank you for putting everything I have been feeling lately so eloquently into words.

]]> By: Beth in Wisconsin http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133141 Beth in Wisconsin Tue, 15 Apr 2008 02:18:53 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133141 I have truly never been so moved by someone's writing...except when I read yours. I have truly never been so moved by someone’s writing…except when I read yours.

]]> By: kathie http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133134 kathie Tue, 15 Apr 2008 01:46:12 +0000 http://mytopography.com/2008/04/13/where-the-edges-became-frayed/#comment-133134 "Not something I was used to, wide awake at night, each day starting out with tight breath and tears close." You have such a beautiful knack of putting into words those things that I feel and yet can't describe. I could entirely relate to that sentence, and yet I don't think that I had ever consciously been aware that was how I start my days when the depression bites. I'm so glad to hear that the sadness is easing as the days grow longer and warmer. “Not something I was used to, wide awake at night, each day starting out with tight breath and tears close.”

You have such a beautiful knack of putting into words those things that I feel and yet can’t describe. I could entirely relate to that sentence, and yet I don’t think that I had ever consciously been aware that was how I start my days when the depression bites.

I’m so glad to hear that the sadness is easing as the days grow longer and warmer.

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